What is it about staying focused on your goals and intentions that’s most challenging?
It could be that you’re inundated each and every day with a multitude of information that distracts you from keeping your attention on what you want to create in your life.
OR, it could be that you are not crystal clear on what you want to accomplish, so no need to focus.
I have a friend who’s been most instrumental over the years when it comes to helping me keep my attention on what is most important.
Her name is Martha and she is from the Dominican Republic. For years she has been helping me to keep my focus, by telling me 4 simple words.
It is not just the words, it is how she says it.
When you read this next sentence, imagine that it is being spoken by a women with a Spanish accent – “You must fuckus Wendy”
Yes, it is spelled as it sounds.
It makes me smile every time I say it and most people laugh when they hear it.
The best part – it helps me to focus!
There are three other things that are helpful when it comes to being attentive –
- Connect your goal to your Big Why. When you can stay connected to why you want to accomplish something important, it’s easier to keep your attention there. This leads to action and accomplishment.
- Break your goal into baby steps. It is much easier for my client who is looking to change jobs or career, to take this huge gulp of a task and split it up over the week. When they perform one to three actions daily, it will move her towards her goal with a lot less struggle.
- Use a structure to remind you of the action you want to take. Using the above example, my client was looking for more financial freedom in her new job, so I asked her if there was an item she could think of that represented that for her. She immediately thought of a necklace her mother had given her that was made of an antique coin. She wears that necklace, as a structure, to remind her of her desire for financial freedom. This keeps her focused when the going gets tough.
Integrate just one of these items into your day and watch your focus increase. When your focus increases, your chances of reaching your goal will dramatically increase.
And, if you want Martha to tell you to “fuckus”, I can ask her to give you a ring.
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